How to Take Control of Your Life

Do you ever feel as if you’re waiting for your whole life to start? That each day is blending seamlessly into the next? We used to think that life was all about getting that university degree and working our way to the top of the courtroom. Then we stopped to consider, are we really in control? What do we actually want to do with our lives? Of course, we wanted to take back control and do things we actually care about.

You probably think that is easier said than done, don’t you? However, it’s really not – and I’m here to show you how you can get behind the steering wheel to your future.

Take a Step Back

Before we move forward, we must look at the world around us. Is there anything you’re unhappy with? Maybe you hate your job. Maybe you don’t like the area you live in. Maybe your physical appearance is getting you down. Write down what you’re unhappy with so you know what you need to change.

Improve Your Reputation

Sometimes your reputation can hold you back, creating barriers to your overall happiness. For example, if you’ve ever been convicted of a crime, you may struggle to find your perfect job. Often, employers are able to find your mugshot and convictions by looking at public databases, which can cost you a job if they’re put off. To take back control, use a mugshot removal service to have your mugshot deleted from public view. This will save you a lot of grief the next time you apply for a job you really want.

Make the Change

If you know what you’re unhappy with, it’s up to you to decide what to do next. You’re never going to be happy if you allow your life to continue down the same trajectory. You must take action. Are you not happy with your new job? Talk to your boss about a different role, or maybe go after the job you’ve been dreaming of. Is your relationship strained? Maybe you just need to spend some quality time with your partner, so take a vacation to Turkey, book a hotel in Liverpool city center for the night, or just have a date night once a week. Show them that you care, it doesn’t have to be a massive gesture, even if you show up with some Glenroy flowers to show them that you’ve been thinking about them and care, they’ll appreciate it. This can show that you’ve been thinking about them.

Talk to Someone

It’s amazing how much talking to someone can help. You can speak to a counsellor if you’re feeling stressed, or you can just have a heart-to-heart with a loved one who is happy to lend an ear. Talking helps us put our lives in perspective, and can take a great, big weight off our shoulders. Don’t bottle all your emotions up inside or one day they’ll just explode out of you.

Do What You Love

So many of us give up on our dreams because of obligations in the home, jobs and families; however, doing something you love will make you feel happier – and this will make your personal and professional life a lot better. You can pursue your dream career or just enjoy your passion as a hobby, just do it. You will be glad you did.

Ask for Help

If you are struggling with tasks, emotions, physical problems, or the finances of your life, there is no shame in asking for help. So many people never seek help that is available from friends, family, or professionals. If you’re struggling with debt, speak to a charitable organisation that can help take control of your finances. Or you could think about refinancing some of your loans such as your student loan so you can still pay it back but without the stress of having to pay a huge amount in one go, check out companies like SoFi for help with this and whether it is a possibility for you.

If you’re dealing with intimate physical issues, don’t shy away, consult a doctor and find more information regarding the problem you are facing. If you are feeling mentally unwell, talk to a family member or counselor who can help. It’s so easy to bottle things up inside, and opening up about your problems can feel like the hardest thing in the world, but the thought is always worse than the reality.

Taking control really can be a lot simpler than you think. All you have to do is identify your unhappiness, speak up and make a change. It is that easy.

Alexa Taylor

Written by Alexa Taylor

Lover of airplanes and the feeling of the sun on my face, I collect postcards and need to pet every dog I see.