It’s no secret to anyone who knows us and anyone who has met us along the way on the crazy journey, we are both very stubborn girls, we think it’s something to do with being trained as lawyers to always want to be right and to work to our utmost skill to be the one who is right, add that to both being strong women with very solid opinions and strengths and arguments are bound to crop up. And they do, so frequently in fact that we’ve had people constantly on the edge of worry that we are on the verge of ending the friendship and going our separate ways.
But we are sisters, through and through, we argue like sisters and wake up the next day the best of friends again. We won’t go into details but one time, it all got too much and I (Krissy), actually bought a ticket back home and was ready to leave Alexa and end our journey together. I got all the way to the airport before I realised that it was just another argument, I tore up my ticket and headed straight back to the hotel, there were lots of tears and apologies and we came out the other side stronger than ever.
When spending so much time in another’s comp[anym, there is bound to be friction and disagreements, but it doesn’t have to mean full blown arguments and stony silences. We’ve been travelling together for over two years, and here’s how we deal with potential arguments and stubbornness.
1. Take time apart
As fab as it seems to spend your entire life with your best friend, it can get tiring and no matter how much you love them, there will always come a point where you get sick of each other. Most of the time it will genuinely be nothing personal and will just be a result of the constant company, this is totally ok. Take a walk, do an excursion with someone else or on your own, go to a cafe and read a book or magazine for the day, just do anything that doesn’t involve your travel partner, and do this regularly. Don’t wait until you’re sick of the sight of them.
This is probably the hardest thing to do if you’re as stubborn as us, but talk about your priorities when you visit somewhere before you get there and talk about why it is you want to do that. Sometimes, coming up with a plan before hand (a great airport activity!) can help to minimise the risk of arguments about what to do once you get there. If you both seriously disagree on what to do and don’t have the time to do everything, do the activities separately! Giving you the much needed time apart (see point number 1).
3. Pay for yourself
When you first start travelling with someone, it’s so easy to offer to pay for rounds of drinks, taxis, food and just say ‘oh, you get the next one!’, this soon descends in scrupulous penny counting and arguments along the lines of ‘well I paid for this!’. It is so easily avoidable by just paying for everything you do for yourself and not having to resort to keeping tabs on who’s paid how much for what. A needless source of tension that is so easily resolved. It seems petty but can avoid many, many arguments.